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Organizing Your Home with The Organized Mama ( Part 1)

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This episode will help:

👉 embrace your organizational style based on your personality
👉 organize your house even if you can’t afford 1,327 acrylic bins
👉 get your family on board when they don’t share your zeal for organization

In this episode:

4:15 Identify what organization means to you
10:18 Creating lasting organizational habits
14:22 Where should you start when organizing your house?
16:28 Let’s talk about containers
19:56 Getting our family on board with organization
24:57 Teaching our kids the skill of organizing




Organization is important, but why?

Before we even jump into the ins and outs of organizing, we should probably find out if it’s even important. And if it is, why? I asked this question to Jessica and I love her answer:

“Organizing matters because our brain tells stories, that’s how it connects everything that goes on during the day. So when we are organized, our brain is able to connect those stories because it’s able to process the environment around us.”

And wow, that is so true. Have you ever walked into a cluttered or really messy space and immediately your body tenses up and you sort of go into fight, flight or freeze mode? It’s because your brain isn’t able to truly process what’s going on around it. So when we can give ourselves organized spaces, we give our brain space to process and regulate and do it’s job well, instead of trying to make sense of and manage chaos.

Organizing literally can get our brains out of survival mode and back into calm, collected, and thriving.

What does organization mean to you?

Okay, so now that we have established that organization is important, what does organization actually look like? Is it the same for everyone, and should we all be following the exact prescribed formula for organizational success?!

Nope.

Just like with most things in life, this is going to look unique to you, your family, and will probably ebb and flow with the different seasons of your life.

Usually what we do is head straight to Pinterest or Instagram and we see so many beautiful images of clear bins, white linen closets, and color coded kitchens, and while those images are beautiful, they don’t always translate seamlessly into our actual lives.

One thing Jessica suggests is to get into your real life. Find a place in your house that evokes a calm feeling in you, a place that feels organized and use that as your definition of organized and as a great jumping off point.

Where to start

This might surprise you, but Jessica says you should start your organizing journey in your bedroom. Not the kitchen, not the junk drawer, or the coat closet that busting at the seams. But in your bedroom. The one place in your house that probably no one is going to see so why in the world would we start there?!

Because it is just for you. Your room should be your space, your retreat, your place to go at the end of the day (or anytime in the day) to rest, reset, get a goodnights sleep, recharge and if it’s chaos in there, your brain is gonna have a heck of a time getting your back to a well rested state. Which you need to be in to tackle the rest of the house and to be able to truly organize, declutter, and really think through the entire process.

So start with your bedroom. Always. Even though I know you’re still thinking but like nobody sees my bedroom, you have to start with your bedroom.

Remove papers and work documents and all of that kind of stuff. Really keep it zen in there. You will see a huge difference as you start to go through more areas of your home when your bedroom is actually tidy and organize.

Let’s talk containers

So you’ve decided it’s time to organized. Let’s run to the store and pick up all the clear acrylic containers that we can get our hands on and bring them home to get started.

Wrong.

Mistake that we are all probably making (me included) is buying the bins or containers first. I can’t help it, I get really excited and I’m sure you can relate. But containers are just a tool. They aren’t the start, they aren’t even a necessity, and they might not even be a part of your version of organized.

Or maybe they are. If your version of organization is putting everything in clear containers, taking everything out, and you can maintain that, then do it.

If your version of organized does not involve any of that, I am here for it.

But Jessica says that you should never star organizing with a bin ever. Instead start by removing everything from the area you are working with. Get rid of anything that doesn’t need to go back into that space. Either throw it away or set it aside to deal with later.

And then you figure out where everything should go within the space. Then if any organizing tools could help you keep things that way, that’s when you should look for containers or bins.

” I’ve seen so many people have these beautiful pantries that they can’t keep organized. So they have these bins that they spent a lot of money on behind boxes from Costco because that’s what their kids just keep going through. Bins can become clutter too. So really focus on removing the stuff that does not need to stay in that area. Putting things away like where it makes sense, and then seeing if there’s any organizing tools that could help you keep it organized. So it’s like the third step in the whole process.”

Getting the fam on board

We need to be careful that in our zeal for a Pinterest-worthy, organized-looking room that what we really want is a space that feels calm, peaceful, and really good.

And if we’re having freakouts because people aren’t putting pillows correctly, we are kinda missing the point.

Just like we are going to have different versions of organized from our neighbors or friends, we are going to have different ideas of what organized looks like within our own homes! So it’s not necessarily getting them on board with getting organized, but figuring out how to morph all your different versions of organized together in order to live happily in the same home.

I love Jessica’s idea of a bare minimum that you can build off of. Her example was that at the end of the night, she doesn’t want any pillows or blankets or random stuff on the floor in the living room. So her kids are responsible for picking everything up. But then she can go back in and fluff the pillows and arrange them exactly how she wants. It’s a win for everyone because she’s helping them build good habits, but not holding them to her higher standards.

Teaching kids the life skill of organizing

Unpopular opinion coming in 3…2….1…..

Let them have and be responsible for their own space, like their bedroom. Let them discover how to organize and find out what level of mess they can handle. Obviously, as the parent, you can put in some stipulations like no food, or whatever you think is reasonable, but at a low, low bar.

Jessica shares about a client she had once:

Her daughter’s stuff was just coming out of the bedroom, and there was always so much pushback whenever the mom said to clean the room. So we came up with this idea that as long as the door could open and close without pushing, The room would be considered organized, clean, or whatever.

She came to that realization on her own after she wanted an outfit for school or something, and she couldn’t find it, she realized clothes on the floor don’t make the most sense. She ended up cleaning up her room all on her own accord because something happened to her that made her realize her living situation wasn’t working for her.

I love this example because if she didn’t have that wiggle room or flexibility, she would never realize why it’s important to do those things.

Sometimes as the mom, we want to swoop in and clean or fix, but that’s such a disservice to our kids and rob them of the opportunity to learn on their own.

So while we are on our own kick of organizing, remember to allow them the privilege of being able to learn this skill instead of us just doing it for them.

I could just talk with you about this forever. In fact, we did! This conversation went on some much longer, and we jumped into a whole other conversation around decluttering. But that is going to be a part 2 of this episode that airs next week.

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I’d love to hear what you thought of this episode. Let me know by connecting on Instagram! 

Get the book, Home Sweet Organized Home on Amazon

Connect with Jessica on Instagram: @organizedmamas and Facebook

Jessica’s Podcast: Organizing Tune-Ups

Other Episodes You’ll Love:

Keeping a Clean Home When You Don’t Have Time (Ep 22)

Helping Our Kids Balance The Busy (Ep 21)


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