If you have ever felt like you are doing everything right, but still feeling behind and burned out or just blah, I. This episode is for you, and I wanna share with you today five rules that I break on purpose, that I hear thrown out there as absolutes all the time, but I break them because I have learned that these rules actually hinder balance.

So let’s talk about more purpose. Let’s talk about what has brought me more peace, more presence, and yes, even more profit. Even while breaking the rules, here’s my promise to you. If balance feels impossible, this episode is going to help you breathe again and give you permission to build success on your terms.

Okay. The very first rule that I am willing to break is that consistency is king. What I think we need to shift to is that clarity is queen. Now, I am a fan of consistency. I am actually a huge fan of consistency, but not to trump over everything else the internet says.

Post daily, be everywhere. Never stop. But constant content doesn’t mean quality content. Constantly sitting at your desk doesn’t mean productivity. Constantly working off a to-do list doesn’t mean you are doing the right thing. Constantly burning calories doesn’t even mean that you’ll get the results you want.

Showing up out of obligation just makes noise . When you trade your pressure for purpose, your impact improves.

It is so easy to get stuck in the should cycle. I should be doing this. I should show up there. I should volunteer for this. And while I am absolutely a giant fan of showing up and stepping up and helping others and all of those good things, there is balance in all things. And sometimes we need to say no in order to truly show up as our best in the areas that matter most.

And here’s how we can package this all up. It’s not about always being present. It’s about being powerful when you are. We’ve all pretended that we’re there, that we’re listening, that we’re in, but we’re not. Our mind is somewhere else. We’re thinking about the things we need to get done.

We’re a fake present. It’s about being powerful where you are, and that means when you’re there, you’re really there. So look at consistency and see if it’s serving you or if it’s hindering you. And my guess that it’s gonna be, in some areas it’s absolutely serving you, but in others it may be a hindrance and in those areas.

Clarity is queen. And once you get that clarity, then consistency is going to become your power move. rule number two that I have had to struggle to learn how to break is work now. Rest later. What I have learned for me is that rest is the work, and I am being very serious when I say that my default setting is absolutely work.

Now, rest later. Here’s what became the problem. The work never ended, like never, especially being a full-time mom, running a business. I mean, there were years where I was our sole provider. I’m the primary homemaker. I’m also the primary parent. I’m also volunteering.

I’m also, you, you get what I’m saying? There were so many things that rest, never, ever, ever, ever showed up. You’ve heard my story. I literally stopped sleeping because truly there was never time for rest. In untangling that giant mess, I have found so much more peace. The hustle culture teaches us to delay joy until we’ve earned it.

And while you know, there’s parts of me that really does believe that when I’m trying to teach my kids, I’m trying to teach them. Earn the reward. You don’t get to have the reward before you do the work. This is an important lesson, but for those of us who have that lesson so ingrained, we know it so well, we believe it so deeply that we never stop for the joy.

We’re missing the whole point of life, like we are missing it. Real balance has to build rest in on purpose. It is strategic. And when you strategically build in that rest, magic happens. What I found was that I actually became more productive. I had more clarity and just less brain fog. I was able to focus in more.

Rest really can be a power move. Burnout is not a badge. It is a broken system. Now I work so hard to schedule in joy, to schedule in rest, whether it’s super long walks or family dinner or weekly date night, or me time because I am not gonna lie, me time is my favorite. I have so much fun by myself. I always have a great time when I am alone.

So we have to look and examine what makes me better, what makes me a better business owner? What makes me a better mom? What makes me a better spouse, a better partner? What makes me a better friend? What makes me a better human?

What makes me better in my body? Asking these questions, looking for where we’re going to infuse rest and joy, and I really think we can couple those together. Infusing more into our lives and removing this unsaid sometimes. Very much said rule of work. Now, rest later as the end all. It can make all the difference.

I don’t hustle harder to get rest. I protect rest to work better, and that has made all the difference those first few years of trying to be full-time business. Those first few years of trying to be everything for everyone at all times. It sucked. Everything out of life. It literally sucked the color out of life.

But when I was forced to prioritize rest and let rest be, the work color just came back so vibrant, so strong. There was so much more joy. There was so much more. Gratitude and just feeling good about myself instead of this constant guilt and shame loop that I was in because if I was working, I should be with the family, and if I was with the family, I should be working.

And there was always things I was behind of and, and it was always just hard. It felt hard. Some, even though it seems so counterintuitive. Breaking that rule of work now, rest later, and instead letting rest be the work. It shifted everything and I was getting more done, feeling more joy, seeing everything just get better.

So there you go. There is the second rule that you have permission to break. Rule number three, success means more. I have learned that actually. Success means enough. The old game was more clients, more followers, more launches, more hustle. If this feels good, then more must feel better. Only it didn’t. It just didn’t.

Now I’ve learned align growth, make spacious goals, overflow over overworking when I have learned how to define enough as the win, it has shifted everything. We’ve all felt that experience of if I just get here, then it’s gonna feel better. And then we get there and it doesn’t, and it’s so discouraging and it’s so frustrating, and we think, okay, well maybe I just set the wrong goal.

I need to push it a little further, then I’m gonna feel better only. The cycle starts again. You get there and you don’t feel better Letting go of this illusion that success has to always mean more, , and instead embracing that success can mean enough.

Has so much power. When you stop chasing more, you start making better decisions. Less busy, more booked, less frustrated, more fulfilled, less exhausted, more joyful. Your definition of success doesn’t need to match theirs. It needs to match your life. I’m gonna say that again. Your definition of success does not need to match theirs.

It needs to be about how you want to feel. When we stop and say, what do I want to feel like? What do my days, my weeks, my months, my years this season, what do I want it to feel like? And then we reverse engineer our plan of success around that. Success doesn’t feel hollow anymore. It feels magical. Rule number four that you know I have broken if you’ve been here for any time, is do it for the gram.

Here’s my truth. I can build it without the scroll. . You do not have to show up 24 7 on social media to build a thriving business, Kay? You don’t. You can absolutely unequivocally, easily have a six figure business without social media, and I’m aiming to prove even beyond that Now.

I’m not against social media, and I’m even right now playing with the idea of what could social look like for me. In a way that feels good, but the constant show up, show up, show up. Create content, post. Be discouraged. Try again. Create content post didn’t do so well try again. Create content post. Oh my gosh, that one worked, but I have no idea why.

And then I start the cycle all over because I can’t duplicate it. That hamster wheel, I am not about like, no, you’re not getting me back on it. I will not do it. I am so much happier, so much more content. I feel so much better focusing on other marketing strategies that are paying off in spades. And the thing is, is I had given so much energy and time to the do it for the Gram mentality.

Even though I couldn’t even validate it was working through the results, but I kept doing it because that’s what I was told I was supposed to do. Breaking that rule, choosing to build my business without the scroll. Oh my gosh, it feels so liberating. It feels so good. Your proof that impact doesn’t require an algorithm is right here.

I am saying it to you.

And here’s the craziest thing. I have not posted a reel or a piece of content in almost a year, and what’s really fascinating is that. I still get new people who start following my Instagram every single week, and that’s pretty consistent with what it looked like when I was posting every single day.

Revenue still comes into my business. Every month just like it did. In fact, I’m having higher months and that’s after me stopping trying to create content, trying to make B roll, trying to create the next reel with the trending audio and the right hashtags and all of that.

It’s actually gotten better it,

and that’s with stepping away from social.

So here’s the big shift that I’ve learned. Success can be quiet, beautiful, and off grind. That doesn’t make it less real, it makes it more yours. I.

Breaking the rule that we have to be on social, that we have to be creating content all the time. If it is working for you, keep doing it. If you love it, why would you stop? If you felt like I did where you’re creating, creating, creating, and you can’t even see any measurable positive results that show it’s worth it and you’re exhausted from it and it does not fill your cup, then I’m here to tell you, you can build it without the scroll.

Now let’s jump into rule number five that I am breaking be everywhere to be successful. The reality be where it matters most. Now I get that early on, sometimes we don’t know where it matters most yet, so you’re kind of trying to be everywhere because you’re trying to test and figure out what actually is gonna work.

But as you start seeing the numbers, as you start seeing the metrics, the results, and you can see what’s working. Give yourself permission to say no to everywhere and start focusing on what works for you. That’s what I did with letting go of social. I looked at all the metrics and I said, . Do you wanna know what is bringing in almost no obvious revenue to my business. All of the posting on social media, even though I had all the things, I mean, I had the automated dms, I had the stand store, I had everything that should have produced revenue, and it wasn’t. But when I looked at all my metrics I was looking at and seeing very clearly that.

Pinterest was bringing in revenue. The podcast was bringing in revenue. My newsletter was bringing in revenue, and so I let go of the thing that felt heavy and I focused on the things that were working. .. Not every platform is going to be worth your energy, so you’re going to have to know your metrics, know the data so that you can see what is actually moving the needle for you. What is bringing you closer to your goals? My needle movers are my email list, my podcast Pinterest,

and real client experiences because those clients are tailoring their friends and then their friends are reaching out. Don’t chase all of the things. Choose the right things. Success is not about being everywhere. It’s about being effective where it counts. We can be everything, but we cannot do everything.

When you focus in on what matters most, you start doing the right things and getting bigger results. Balance. It’s not found by following the rules. It’s built by breaking the ones that never worked for you to begin with. These five rule breaks, they changed my business and my life. They honestly changed the way that I wake up in the morning, the way that I show up during the day, the way that I feel about my weeks and my months and my relationships and everything else.

So here’s your permission slip. You don’t have to do it all. You just have to do what matters. So go ahead and send me a message. You can even send me a dm. I’ll look at him. So I’m at Leah Remay on Instagram. Send me an email or a DM and tell me what was your favorite rule break that you heard today.

Which one do you wanna break? Is there a different one that you’re going to break? And if you want help building a business that honors these rule breaks, make sure that you are an LR Insider. Make sure you are on my email list so that you can learn about the different ways that I can help you implement the systems and the automations and the workflows and all the things so that you can break the rules and you can do things your way and focus in on what truly matters.

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