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This Could Save Your Life: 9 Tactics to Survive an Active Shooter with Jesus Villahermosa (Ep 182)

This Conversation Could Save Your Life.

Let’s be honest. When you think about “Balancing Busy,” you’re probably thinking about managing schedules, meal prepping, and maybe, just maybe, finding five minutes to drink your coffee while it’s still hot. You’re not thinking about active shooters.

But I’m going to ask you to pause with me for a moment and lean into a conversation that is heavy, serious, and frankly, terrifying. Because I believe that true peace of mind, the kind that allows us to actually enjoy the busy, beautiful lives we’re building, doesn’t come from ignoring the scary things. It comes from being prepared for them.

Because a crisis is not the time to be preparing for crisis!

This episode of The Balancing Busy Podcast might be the most difficult one you’ll ever listen to. I cried three separate times while recording it. But I am not exaggerating when I say this information could save your life, or the life of someone you love. And having a plan is the first step to taking back your power from the fear.

So, take a deep breath. Let’s do this together.

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Meet the Man Every Family Needs to Hear From

Our guest today is Jesus Villahermosa, and to say he’s an expert in this field is an understatement. With 33 years in law enforcement, including 30 years as the point man on a SWAT team, Jesus has seen the absolute worst of humanity. He has been on the front lines of the situations we pray we never face.

But what makes him so incredible isn’t just his experience; it’s his heart. He has taken four decades of knowledge and dedicated his life to teaching everyday people—parents, teachers, students, and employees—the simple, adaptable tools they need to get home safely.

I knew I had to have him on the show after hearing him speak, and I wasn’t the only one in my house counting down the days. My husband was adamant, telling me, “Leah, everybody needs to hear this.” He was right. So please, listen once for yourself, and then listen again with your family.

Here are the key takeaways from our life-changing conversation.

The Most Dangerous Mindset: “It’ll Never Happen to Me”

This was the gut-punch that started it all. Jesus shared that in his decades of responding to crisis events, the single most common thread among victims was the belief, “I never thought it would happen to me.”

We want to believe we’re safe in our churches, our grocery stores, our schools. But as Jesus pointed out, these events are happening everywhere. The goal isn’t to live in fear that it’s going to happen to you. It’s to have a plan in case it does.

And this isn’t just a professional opinion for him. On January 3rd, 2007, Jesus got the call that there was an active shooter at his own son’s high school. The expert who trains others for a living was suddenly living a parent’s worst nightmare. The only thing that got him through those agonizing moments was knowing that just seven weeks prior, he and his son had talked through a plan. Your family deserves a plan, too.

How to Talk to Your Kids Without Terrifying Them

This was my biggest question. How do we, as parents, broach this subject without giving our kids crippling anxiety? Jesus’s advice was pure gold.

  • Start young and make it age-appropriate. You don’t need to talk about AR-15s with your six-year-old. He used the term “Mr. Yucky” with his own kids to describe a bad person. The conversation can be framed around good guys and bad guys, a concept they already understand from cartoons.
  • Make it a game. Jesus suggested the “running game.” At the park, tell your kids that at some point you’re going to yell “Run!” and their job is to run to a specific tree or cone as fast as they can. You’re conditioning a response to a command in a fun, non-threatening way.
  • Empower them. When your child asks why you’re playing this game, you can explain that sometimes bad things happen, and you need to know they will run to safety. Reassure them with this critical line: “Mommy will take care of herself. I need you to get safe, and I promise, we will find you.” Every child who has fled a mass shooting has been found. You need them to believe this, so they will run.

Forget “Duck and Cover”—It’s a Deadly Mistake

If there is one thing I want you to burn into your brain, it’s this. The old-school drill of hiding under a desk is not only ineffective, it’s been proven fatal time and time again.

Jesus was blunt: a desk won’t stop a bullet, and you are not hidden from view. He shared the heartbreaking statistics from Columbine, Virginia Tech, and Robb Elementary, where the majority of victims were found under their desks. They were following instructions that made them easy targets.

The new model is Duck, Cover, Assess, and MOVE. The initial duck is your natural startle reflex. But it must be followed by assessing where the threat is and moving to a safer location. Staying put, especially in a vulnerable position, is the most dangerous thing you can do.

There Are 9 Survival Tactics—Not Just Three

You’ve heard of “Run, Hide, Fight.” It’s a great starting point, but it’s incomplete. Crisis situations are dynamic, and you need more tools in your tool belt. Jesus has identified NINE proven survival tactics from analyzing real-world events. Knowing all of them gives you and your kids options.

The 9 Survival Tactics You Need to Discuss with Your Family:

  1. Lockdown: If the threat is outside your room, a locked door is still the safest place to be. No shooter has ever breached a locked, barricaded door. It works.
  2. Duck, Cover, Assess, and Move: As we just discussed, this is the new standard. React, assess the situation, and get moving.
  3. The Power of Your Voice: This is twofold. During an event, yelling “Shooter!” or “Gun!” warns others. But even more critically, it’s about speaking up before an event. 8 out of 10 shooters tell someone their plans. Teach your kids to report threats. They aren’t tattling; they are heroes.
  4. Running: This is for when the threat is immediate. If you see or hear the danger, run. Don’t worry about the rules. Don’t worry about where you’re going. Just get away. We will find you.
  5. Evacuation: This is a more planned escape. It’s for when you have a moment to coordinate, like the students who jumped from a second-story window at Virginia Tech to escape.
  6. Hiding: If you can’t get out, hiding is an option. But remember, the goal is to remain unseen and unheard. A ringing cell phone can be a death sentence. Silence your phones!
  7. Crawling: This keeps you below the line of sight and has been used successfully by survivors to escape. It’s not in “Run, Hide, Fight,” but it’s a valid and life-saving tactic.
  8. Playing Dead: This is a high-risk, high-reward tactic that has worked, especially for those already injured. The 11-year-old girl at Robb Elementary who covered herself in her friend’s blood and played dead is a harrowing, but powerful, example of survival.
  9. Fighting: This is NOT just a last resort. If you are cornered, you have the right to fight for your life with anything you can—a fire extinguisher, a laptop, a pair of scissors. Attack and create chaos. You are more capable than you think.

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Having these conversations is hard. It’s emotional. But ignorance is not safety. A plan is safety. A conversation is safety. You are capable of leading your family through this, and they are capable of hearing it.

Please, share this episode. Talk about it at the dinner table. Empower the people you love with the knowledge to get home.

And stay tuned for Part 2, where Jesus and I will be back to talk about situational awareness and how we, especially as women, can protect ourselves in our everyday lives.

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