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Situational Awareness and Intuition: Why Your Gut Feeling Is a Safety Superpower with Jesus Villahermosa (Ep 183)

Are You Being Paranoid, or Is It Your Built-In Survival System?

Have you ever had that feeling? That prickle on the back of your neck when you’re walking to your car at night? That sudden urge to cross the street, even though you can’t pinpoint exactly why?

And then, almost immediately, have you heard that little voice in your head say, “Don’t be ridiculous. You’re being paranoid.”

We, as women, have been conditioned our whole lives to be polite, to be accommodating, and to not make a scene. We’ve been taught to second-guess our own intuition in favor of not seeming rude or overly dramatic.

Today, we’re throwing that conditioning out the window.

This is Part 2 of my life-changing conversation with SWAT veteran and safety expert Jesus Villahermosa. In Episode 182, we covered the nine essential tactics to survive an active shooter event—a conversation I truly believe every single person needs to hear.

Now, we’re shifting our focus from large-scale crises to the everyday situations we face. We’re talking about situational awareness, trusting that gut feeling, and giving ourselves permission to stop thinking civilly in uncivil situations. This isn’t about living in fear; it’s about living in awareness. And trust me, there is a huge difference.

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Meet Jesus Villahermosa (Again!)

If you missed Part 1, let me quickly re-introduce the incredible man who is changing the way we think about safety. With over 30 years in law enforcement, most of it as the point man on a SWAT team, Jesus Villahermosa has dedicated his life to equipping everyday people with the tools to get home safely. His approach is practical, data-driven, and incredibly empowering.

Let’s dive into the key takeaways from our conversation on situational awareness.

Your “Gut Feeling” Isn’t Paranoia—It’s Your Superpower

This was the mic-drop moment for me. Jesus shared a staggering statistic from one of the largest studies ever done on women’s safety: a woman’s “danger radar” has a 75% accuracy rate.

Let that sink in. When you feel like something is wrong, you are right three out of four times. That’s not paranoia; that’s a highly-evolved survival instinct.

But here’s the heartbreaking part of that study. Of the 375,000 women who reported having that gut feeling that something was wrong, not a single one of them changed their plan. They continued into the dangerous situation—out of politeness, not wanting to be an inconvenience, or doubting themselves—and they were attacked. We have to untrain this. That feeling is a gift. It’s your body’s alarm system, and it’s time we started listening to it without apology.

Adopt the CLEAR Survival Mindset

So, how do we move from being distracted and complacent to being aware and prepared? Jesus teaches a simple, powerful acronym: CLEAR. It’s a mental checklist to help you navigate your environment safely.

  • C – Complacency: This is our biggest enemy. It’s scrolling on our phones while walking through a parking lot or being so lost in thought that we don’t notice our surroundings. The first step is to break the habit of complacency and choose to be present.
  • L – Look & Listen: Engage your senses. Notice the exits in a coffee shop. Pay attention to the people around you. Hear the footsteps behind you. This isn’t about being on high alert 24/7; it’s about making observation a natural part of your routine.
  • E – Entrust: This is where we honor that 75% accuracy rate. Trust what you see, hear, and feel. If a situation “just don’t look right,” as one man in Tennessee told Jesus, then it probably isn’t. Stop second-guessing and start believing yourself.
  • A – Action: What is your plan? Have you mentally rehearsed what you would do if that person got too close? Your brain can’t recall a plan it’s never made. The simple act of thinking, “What would I do if…” creates a pathway in your brain that you can access instantly in a crisis.
  • R – Recover: The entire point of this is to get home safely. Your goal is recovery—getting back to your family, your life, and your sense of peace.

Give Yourself Permission to Be Rude

This might be the most challenging and most freeing advice of all. So much of what holds us back from acting on our intuition is the fear of offending someone. We don’t want to seem rude if we change our route because a man is walking behind us. We don’t want to make a scene by setting a boundary.

Jesus was clear: in a moment of potential danger, your safety is infinitely more important than a stranger’s feelings. He shared the powerful story of teaching his stepdaughter how to be rude, practicing with her until it became a tool she was comfortable using. When a boy grabbed her from behind, she didn’t freeze—she reacted fiercely, set a hard boundary, and stayed safe.

Practice it. Rehearse it with your daughters. It is okay to say “no,” to hang up the phone, to walk away, to create distance, and to be impolite to ensure your safety. A real man, a safe man, will respect your boundary. A predator will be offended by it. Let their reaction be your final confirmation that you made the right choice.

I know these last two conversations have been heavy. They are the kinds of topics we’d rather not think about, but pretending threats don’t exist doesn’t make us safer. From the unimaginable crisis of an active shooter event to the subtle unease of a quiet parking lot, the thread that ties these episodes together is one of profound empowerment. It’s about trading fear for a plan. It’s about choosing to listen to that powerful intuition we all have, rather than dismissing it as paranoia.

My hope is that you don’t just listen to these episodes, but that you use them. Have the difficult conversation with your family about the nine survival tactics. Practice the CLEAR mindset on your next trip to the grocery store. And the next time that little voice whispers that something isn’t right, honor it without hesitation. True peace of mind doesn’t come from ignoring the world around us; it comes from knowing you have the tools, the awareness, and the permission to keep yourself and your loved ones safe.

AFTER YOU LISTEN: 

I’d love to connect and know your thoughts on this episode. Find me on Instagram!

OTHER EPISODES YOU’LL LOVE:

Part 1 of this Series with Jesus: How to Survive an Active Shooter

Ep 167: The Practice of Presence

Ep 105: Overcoming Fear and Building Confidence

Ep 42: Avoiding Mommy Burnout

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