While everyone else is talking about how to break in, I want to open up a different conversation - one where we break out. Not completely... As you'll notice I'm still sharing my socials, but what I wanted was to discover better habits so that we could all have healthier, happier (less comparison-prone) relationships with our phones.
These little devices are a portal to a dream world where everything is Giada-delectable and Martha- organized.
Where you stay skinny in spite of what you eat, and homes are white and pristine, even with a gaggle of kids. I love this place...and yes, I get sucked into the scroll.
And yet...and yet. Our phones are simultaneously the gate that closes us off from the actual, tangible real lives. And that's what I'm not okay with. I have babies and an empire to raise, a husband to love, good to do, and a testimony to nurture - I can't miss all that.
It started as a conversation between business besties. Val McKeenan and I would talk about algorithms and engagement. But then, one day the conversation shifted.
We started talking about how it all made us feel. It seemed like we constantly needed to play the game, one that we were never allowed to take a time-out from (or so we thought). Everything was measured against a yardstick that either said 'Better luck next time,' or 'Now go and try to duplicate that.'
And then the youth in my church were given a challenge to take a 7-day break from fake. I jumped in, thinking I was just there to support them. How wrong I was! After my experience, I told Val and she jumped in too, taking her own 7-day break. We couldn't believe what we discovered. After that, we knew this conversation was bigger than the two of us. And so we invited others to join us and asked them if we could survey them throughout the process, in hopes that we could find tangible solutions for the modern life on how to cultivate a healthier relationship with our phones.