Dear Over Opinionated Photographer,
I’d like to tell you a story.
It’s about a bucket and a dipper. Have you heard it before?
The story goes that everyone – yep even you – has a bucket and a dipper. Within each of our buckets is a different level of water. For some, it is full and for others it is empty. How we feel; our mood, our abilities to handle what life sends our way… Well, it can all be traced back to how empty or full our bucket is.
Have you ever woke up to find your favorite song playing on the radio? Or has someone offered you a genuine compliment that you really needed to hear? Maybe you’ve opened your email box to find a glowing reply from a client who just saw their sneak peak or had a friend just step up and help you without you even having to ask?
I truly hope you’ve gotten to enjoy some of these blessings in your own life. Each of these are examples of when someone has added to your bucket. We all need help filling our buckets, we can’t do it on our own.
Our dippers can only add to or take from another’s bucket. We need others to fill our buckets for us. They do it through genuine kindness, compassion, love, friendship, service and thoughtfulness. In contrast…
Have you ever asked a question because you were excited and eager to learn more, only to have someone make you feel like an absolute idiot for not already knowing? Or have you had your faults painstakingly pointed out as if you weren’t already aware that you’re not perfect?
Perhaps you’ve had a “friend” point out that they would never shoot from that angle, or with that gear, or in that light, or edit that way, or take on those type of clients… ‘But hey, they’re ‘just say’n’!
Or have you ever read a tangent comments on your own Facebook wall or your own Blog that made you just want to curl up in bed and cry… All from someone hiding behind a monitor in who knows where, who seems to think that they knew everything and that it’s their responsibility to offer enlightenment to you. When in truth all they’ve done is leave you defeated, defenseless and feeling like you have nothing left to give?
These are examples of other people reaching into your bucket and taking from you. To many people want to take. They believe that when they take it helps release a little of their pain. It doesn’t… In fact, it does the opposite. It allows bitterness to fester.
We are all trying. None of us are going to get it all right – all of the time. None of us are perfect and I still haven’t met anyone yet who thinks they are the exception.
I think that we are all pretty clear on the fact that we have room for improvement and most do a pretty good job of self deprecating without needing any additional help. And yet too many are overly eager to offer up their unwanted and uncensored opinions.
You may have had your own bucket dipped out of so many times that you feel like your bucket is on the verge of empty and you desperatly need someone to share with you. If this is true, there is no better and faster way to get your bucket filled then to actively start looking to add to someone else’s. As you begin making deposits in other’s buckets you will find that your own bucket has become full.
No matter where you are right now, contentment is possible. And if you decide to try it, it will open up your eyes to thousands of blessings that are hiding right under your nose. – Lori Smith
I hope that we can all be a little kinder to each other, be a little more willing to share and be a little less prone to excusing bad actions… I hope your bucket can be full soon.
P.S. I would love to hear your thoughts – post a comment and jump in on the conversation!
Image Source: Frank Heckers for Real Simple