This is the true story of one mom (me) and her camera. I’ll admit that it’s a long one but I actually think that’s a good thing. All the hobbyist will be scared off leaving only the truly passionate and determined to learn the secrets.
THE NASTY LIE THAT I BELIEVED
Tell me (please don’t leave me alone on this) if you can relate…I am good at being busy, seriously it might be a talent, or more likely a curse when I consider just how good at being busy I am! I can sit down at my desk and work till my head very literally has hit the keyboard and still have a never ending list worth of “more” to do. I can go from cleaning, to blogging, to carpool, to dinner, to homework with the kids, bedtime routine and back to working and then crash on my pillow and wake up and do it all again. And the crazy thing is, I can sustain this kind of life for a long long time. I know because I did it for years.
As women, we are hardwired to be care takers, nurtures…givers. I like this about us, but if we are not careful these wonderful attributes can be misconstrued in our own minds to start believing that our worth is in our to-do lists. We feel guilt – a lot of guilt if we’re not being busy. So we fill our days – every last moment of our days with stuff and then we feel better about ourselves. Or do we?
It turns out that despite all that I was doing, all that I was seemingly accomplishing…I didn’t feel better. In fact I felt worse. I now had a whole new guilt to be consumed by and this guilt was so much more heart-wrenching then the first…I was terrified that I wasn’t giving enough. That my kids weren’t being given the mom that they needed, that my husband wasn’t getting the wife that he deserved and my business, (despite all of those countless hours) wasn’t showing any signs of growth or to be very honest wasn’t even offering any real contribution to my family. So I had to ask myself, why was I even doing photography?
I could try to say that I was doing it for the love of photography if I wanted, but that was a lie. If it was really just for the love then I wouldn’t be charging. The love hadn’t been my only motivation, it was the idea of possibilities that got me to begin my photography business. The possibility of being able to create better experiences for our family through my supplemental income, that was what first planted the seed for me. But back then, that wasn’t even close to happening if anything their experiences had gotten worse because now I had work to do, all the time.
THE EPIPHANY IN THE BACK OF THE AMBULANCE
So why am I telling you this? Two years ago, the kids and I were at the zoo. I was trying to take them to more and more fun places to curb the guilt of so often allowing my computer to take first priority. We were looking at the Alligators…I started to get hot so I walked us outside. I felt the world starting to pull away and everything was beginning to go dark. I left the zoo on a stretcher and I will never ever forget the look on my oldest face. The shear terror in her eyes as her mommy was rushed to the hospital. My body had betrayed me, I guess it was sick and tired of being forced to work on overdrive all the time. But in hindsight it was a major blessing. I hated that moment, I hated what I had let myself become, I hated the constant busyness, never ending guilt and shear exhaustion I felt all the time. I resolved to change.
Being busy is not an accomplishment and it does not make us better women. In fact it hurts our progress. When we are busy for the sake of being busy, we make for lousy wives, so-so moms and over extended business owners… And not surprisingly – Everything suffers!
There is a very vast difference between busy and productive. If we as women can learn to let go of busy and instead embrace the right kind of productivity we can enhance every aspect of our lives.
THE TRUTH THAT SET ME FREE
Now here’s the thing… I DON’T WANT YOU TO LET GO OF YOUR DREAM! That’s the ‘be reasonable’ answer, and I despise being reasonable. No, I’m saying you have to get better, more defined dreams! When I was trying to figure this all out, I kept hearing things like, ‘well, it may just be too much for you’ or ‘this may not be the season for you to be running a business’ but something in me just couldn’t accept that. I loved every single thing in my life. I wanted to be it all, but I had to find that better way, otherwise I would have to quit my dream.
Since you’re reading the post, I’m sure you can guess what happened… figured out that better way. I learned how to work smarter, harder and more productively. I learned how to organize my time and my priorities so that I could make sure that the people who matter most to me, felt it. I came to the realization that while I can be it all…I can’t do it all.
IT CAN BE YOUR REALITY TOO
Let me share with you what has happened for me…I have gotten my photography business to where it only takes about 12 hours a week to run but can bring in $8,000 a month and I started working with the kind of clients that I had only dreamed about before. I was able to begin funding those experiences and not just once but many times over. In fact my passport finally got some use…and then it was used again!
My Friday nights are now reserved for date night with my husband and my weekdays are filled with laughter from my kids…and my business – well I am the original test dummy for The Thriving Photographer.
Now before you try to tell me that this can’t happen for you….let me ask you. WHAT IF IT COULD? Photographer’s from all over the globe and with no experience to 10+ years of experience have taken the challenge, invested in themselves and guess what. They are Thriving! (you can read there testimonials here, here, here and even more here.
What do you have to loose, I mean really loose? Not the money, since there is a money back guarantee. And what do you have to gain, I mean truly gain if I can change your photography business and the way you experience it forever? What would that mean in your life?
Leave a comment and tell me what experience you would love to create for your family through your photography business…
Happy Mother’s Day. This year give yourself your life back!