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Simple Strategies: New Clients are Like First Dates

You know who has the “bad first date” experience when it comes to photography?  The guy.  And what a mistake that is!  I see it with wedding photography and  portrait photography.

That is a huge missed opportunity. You can make a better than good impression just by giving him some well deserved attention!  Ask HIM questions about what he does. Let HIM know you understand that he probably doesn’t want to be here. Get HIS opinion on what he’d like to see from this session. 

You can also check to see if he needs to get back to work and offer to speed up his part. I’ve done this many times. I start with the whole fam, then dad and the kids; last, dad and mom, and in 20 minutes he’s done!  Just think how much more he’s going to like you then. 

And yes – I’ve actually said, “Don’t worry, I’m going to help you escape as fast as possible!”  That always gets him to soften up. 

Now I’ve heard a lot of photographers give the guy a bad rap for not being into it.  But really, can you blame him?  This session wasn’t his idea.  He’s feeling awkward, uncomfortable… and up to this point, his opinion has held no weight.  

But you can change all of that.  So get to know him, ask for his opinion, help him feel important….


Your sales will thank you for it!  


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What have you been doing to help the guys you photograph enjoy their portrait session just a little bit more? 

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  1. Sarah says:

    I’ve always addressed the man involved and expressed my appreciation for showing up and given him some sympathetic. I know how my husband is! Lol

    • It’s so funny how much more sympathetic we become (for the wives too) when it’s time to get our own hubby’s in front of the camera. At least I have become even more aware each time. LOL

  2. Alison says:

    The best way? Book my boudoir clients for family and couples shoots- the guys already love me after their gift! I had one guy rush over, give me a huge hug and tell me he would do whatever I want 🙂

    Seriously though, I have usually already talked with mom and I make it a point to talk about what he does, what he loves so I know where to start with him in order to break the ice. One client told me if I ask about their house project, he would be my best friend and talk my ear off. About 15 minutes into the session, I asked him about it (it was truly an amazing house) and after that, we chatted like old friends, he was much more “into” the session and we had a ton of fun!

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