I knew the kind of mom that I wanted to be. I knew the kind of kids I wanted to cultivate, raise and send out to the world. I had absolutely NO IDEA H-O-W I was going to do it!?!
I remember talking about this topic with friends…
How do we make sure they don’t feel entitled?
How do we teach them the value of hard work?
How to we instill true confidence that only comes from knowing your own capabilities?
How do we teach them integrity?
How to we help them see the value of a good reputation?
So far my kids are growing up, in upper-class suburbia. Santa can give them what’s on their wish list, food is plentiful and going out to dinner is more of the norm than a special treat. If they want something, for the most part we can provide it for them (except that one time that Paysen asked for a Leprechaun – that was a bit tricky). So when your children aren’t growing up with any grit shaping trials, how do you insure you don’t end up with entitled or not so confident kids?
I didn’t know and I hated that. I felt like I was going to fail them because life wasn’t tragic or hard enough. I know! That may be the weirdest, most backwards sentence ever. But I went through hard stuff and it was through the hard stuff that I learned to take care of myself, which in turn instilled confidence. I learned to work hard for what I dreamed of, I leaned that unicorns are not served on silver platters and that it felt better when you ‘d earned it yourself.
Then I found the book, The Parenting Breakthrough by Merrilee Browne Boyack! Insert alleluia chorus because this book has literally been a life-saving tool. Teaching me and helping me with strategies and ideas on how to raise amazing kids.
Well at the beginning of 2015 when I wrote down my goals, I added that I would like to interview an author. As I thought about who that author could be, I wanted to find someone who had profoundly impacted my life and then I looked over on my side table and there The Parenting Breakthrough was!
I reached out to Merrilee and she happily agreed to let me interview her and chat with her for this segment of Video Friday. I have to tell you, this was a HUGE moment for me! Getting to talk to someone who has so profoundly impacted the most important role I play on this earth was amazing!
Today I am so excited to share this interview with you! I can’t wait to hear your thoughts and have a conversation with you about it in the comments below!
Again, I would love to start a conversation in the comments and hear your thoughts!
What was your biggest takeaway from what Merrilee shared? AND – OR What’s the best parenting advice you’ve ever been given?
Hope you’ll join me!