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Are You HardWired For Burnout? with Heidi Hope (Episode 18)

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Description: Heidi Hope and I both come from a place of experiencing extreme burnout. The good news is that we are on the other side and today we are sharing those experiences. What we’ve both learned from drowning in overwhelm, what we got wrong, what we fixed, and how we now avoid choosing (yep choosing) burnout.

This will help:

👉 Anyone who wants to ditch the cycle of overwhelm and burnout 
👉 Set boundaries and shift your mindset around burnout  
👉 Increase productivity without losing time, sleep, and relationships

In this episode: 

4:05 Are We Hardwired for Burnout
8:02 Being Intentional About Expending Our Energy 
15:13 Our Power Comes When We Fill Ourselves Up  
19:20 Overwhelm is Directly Connected to Feeling Like There’s Not Enough Time 
24:53 When Burnout Becomes a Cycle, You are Choosing It 
28:33 Creating Boundaries Around Time and Energy 

BEING INTENTIONAL ABOUT OUR ENERGY

Burnout is avoidable. There is a way to achieve and have success, but we have to be a little bit more intentional about how we’re expending our energy. Crashing shouldn’t be the only time that we allow ourselves to stop. In fact, one of the signs that you’re burnt out is that you only allow yourself to rest when you’re sick or forced to rest.

Think about this: even the highest peak performers, the high achievers, the Olympic athletes, the marathon runners, they have rest built into their schedule. They can’t train every single day. They have to rest. And so that’s part of our cycle as creatives, business owners, and high achievers, too. There has to be the time that we allow our brains and our bodies to be replenished. We need a full tank of gas so we can be ready to hit the ground running, because we work with such intensity when we’re inspired.

OUR POWER COMES WHEN WE FILL OURSELVES UP

Your value as a mother, your value as a worker, your value in your career doesn’t come from sacrifice. In fact, we can give so much without sacrifice. When you can get to a place where you’re so full and you are giving from that energy, you’re actually going to be more giving and be more productive.

We think of it very backwards culturally. We’ve been conditioned to give, even if we’re empty. That’s a really low energy to be giving from. It’s actually not very effective when we’re giving from our own exhaustion or when we’re completely wiped out and burnt out.

Find things that fill you up and that bring you joy. If you can give yourself that gift, you will see that when you show up to do your work, it’s scientifically proven that you will be more productive.

Why? Because you’re inspired, because you’re full, because you allowed yourself to feel that joy, that purpose, and that passion in other areas of your life. And then, you can’t help but give and serve when you are that full of feeling good. It just flows right out of you. It’s overflowing. When you’re smiling, you want everybody else to be smiling too.

So really our power as creators, as business owners, or mothers, etc. comes when we fill ourselves up through small practices — small, joyful, daily practices.

Making the time to do the things that fill you up isn’t selfish. These things are going to impact the world around you so much greater when you are bringing that energy to the table.

WHEN BURNOUT BECOMES A CYCLE, YOU ARE CHOOSING IT

We tell ourselves a story that there’s not enough time and then we repeat this cycle. And when we are repeating things, we are choosing things. So yeah, you might be choosing burnout. If you get burnt out over and over again, that’s a choice. Because at the end of the day, you are the one who’s saying yes to all the things, whatever your reasons are for doing that.

But if you want to change the way things look for you, you have to start choosing differently. This might feel like a really, really hard call out. Like, “Hey, you’re choosing burnout.”

I remember coming to a very, very similar place. As soon as you acknowledge that you are in control, you take back your power. You no longer believe that your burn out has happened because it’s busy season, or because I’m in a launch. It’s because the kids have 5 million sports. It’s because my husband is doing this. If we always blame it on the circumstances, we will be in a perpetual state of overwhelm or burnout. I need to be very, very honest, and I know this is harsh, but it can destroy our families, our marriages, and our relationship with our kids.

So this is something that we need to take super seriously. We have to stop choosing burnout. We have to take back our power, be intentional, and choose something different.

CREATING BOUNDARIES AROUND TIME AND ENERGY

Naturally boundaries would be the next thing to come up. If we are going to be choosing something other than overwhelm, we are gonna need some good boundaries. They can be tough. They were for me for a long time.

So whether your boundaries are around work, technology use, your personal time, your time with your spouse, your time with your children, even how many things you volunteer for or commit to or donate to or whatever. These things need to be planned.

We have to make a plan for ourselves, especially going into busy seasons. When you’re going into a season of life that you know is going to be busy, become very intentional about how much time you are going to commit to different responsibilities, rather than just haphazardly saying yes to all the things.

Give yourself space to pause and check in with yourself before adding things to your plate. A lot of us are people pleasers and we really do want to do all the things so we say yes before really thinking about the time and energy that it really takes. Having a response that allows you time to pause and follow up will eliminate a lot of that resentment that can build up after saying yes to too many things.

Alright, how do you feel? I know it can be some tough love to hear that you might be choosing your burnout, but I want you to feel the power that comes from the flip side of that. You have the power to intentionally choose something else, something better.

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