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Haters will hate… But now you don’t have to let it get to you!

To those who have felt the hater’s fire…  

Do you believe that?  Haters don’t hate you… The reality is, they fear that they will never be able to get to where you are right now.

Can you see that in some way –  your haters are really just terrified that they will never be able to get to their goal… Theirs!!  And because they see that you’ve gotten there, their insecurities are manifesting as hate.

And often it’s the simple fact that YOU-ARE-TRYING, and they’re too scared to put themselves out there and even do that much.

Hater’s are always going to hate – that is a fact.  If no one has hated on you yet…  You’re not pushing yourself hard enough.

So how are YOU going to handle it when people hate on you?  What are YOU going to do with what they spew?


What if we had compassion?  What if we recognized that their feelings probably aren’t really about you or me…  Those feelings are actually really about them.  Their hate is really a manifestation of their jealousy.

I can choose to be hurt and angry…  I can fester, smolder, complain, dwell, brew, moan and gripe.


I can let it go.  Yes, it’s that simple and that hard.  I can take whatever truth that might be inside their words and see if I can use them to help me become stronger and to grow.  And then the rest… I just have to let go of.



To those who spend time hating…  

It is terrifying to challenge yourself.  You could fail, everyone could see it, and you would be forced to crawl back to where you were before you tried, with everyone watching.  That could happen.

But in three-hundred-and-sixty-five days from now?  It will – no matter what – be one year later.  And over the coarse of that one year, you could learn that you really can be who you want to be.  You really can stand taller, make more money, have more time, and be that much closer toward your dreams.

“Jealousy is simply and clearly the fear that you do not have value.  Jealousy scans for evidence to prove the point – that others will be preferred and rewarded more than you. There is only one alternative – self-value.  If you cannot love yourself, you will not believe that you are loved. 

You will always think it’s a mistake or luck. Take your eyes off others and turn the scanner within.  Find the seeds of your jealousy, clear the old voices and experiences. Put all the energy into building your personal and emotional security. Then you will be the one others envy, and you can remember the pain and reach out to them.”  – Jennifer James

The monitor that you sit behind is not as thick as you think. On the other side of that glass, sits another human being.  A human being imperfect – just like you.  With their own talents, dreams and fears – just like you.  Their own self doubts, strengths and weaknesses – just like you.

Do you really feel proud that you’re the one teaching them a thing or two?  Are you really sure that you’re the most qualified?

I often think of this quote from my favorite book by Dale Carnegie, “Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain — and most do.”

You’re smarter than that.

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Are you ready for more?  I’m determined to prove to as many photographers as will let me that you can have passion, profits and time for a great life.  I create six-figure photographers, and I’d love to teach you, step-by-step, how it’s done.  This is happening for photographers from all over the world who are just like you.  Let me prove just how wildly successful YOU can be!

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