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My Losses and Lessons of 2022 (Ep 30)

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We can act like we’re getting it all right, that year after year it all just gets better and better… More money, more reach, better family, bigger wins. But can that really be anyone’s reality and that storyline only serves one person, the one telling it. And of course we could argue it’s not even serving them.

In this episode on The Balancing Busy Podcast I wanted to share an honest, vulnerable review of 2022. Where I saw the wins and where I felt the losses.

I wanted to answer:

How did I do at balancing in 2022?
Where do I feel I went right?
Where do I feel I went wrong?
What were some wins, and where can I see some lessons when it didn’t feel like wins.

As I am going through this, I invite you to reflect on your 2022 as well. What did you love? What is worth celebrating? And what lessons can we extract?

This will help:

 👉 You acknowledge wins you might have overlooked 
 👉 Recognize unique lessons you can learn that you may have missed
 👉 Identify your key happiness areas to focus on this year 

In this episode: 

1:20 Focus on Consistency 
2:42 Life Assessment 
12:19 Where I Went Right and Where I Went Wrong 
14:16 Consistent Habits 
15:31 Greatest Wins of 2022
18:33 Greatest Lessons of 2022
20:07 Implementation

Consistency is Key

Is it possible to do all the things simultaneously? What does that look like? Take a look at each area of your life and as long as you are consistent, you’ll be moving forward.

Instead of huge goals, I am working on consistent, positive habits. There are lots of different options these days to help you stay on track, whether it be an app or pen and paper. I created a habit tracker printable a while back which you can download here. I am using the Habits of Health app which I am loving so far! I paid for the premium so I could track more than 3 and place some tracking habits on only certain days of the week.

For example, my exercise for the day might be walking the dog. But at least I got out and did something! Being consistent was the main goal — and understanding that dog walks are not going to be my only form of exercise!

How to Assess Your Year

When reviewing my year, I found it helpful to break everything down into eight different categories. I shared about this assessment in a past episode (you can listen to it here and grab your own free Purpose Driven Living Assessment guide here).

Being able to reflect on each of these areas has been incredibly helpful for me to identify where I had big wins this year, where I felt like I was lacking or could improve, and sometimes it even made me aware of wins that I had totally forgotten about!

Here’s a quick breakdown of the eight areas to reflect on (you can download the assessment here)

1. MARRIAGE (OR RELATIONSHIP)
2. MOTHERHOOD
3. HOME
4. EXERCISE & HEALTH
5. FUN, TRAVEL & RECREATION
6. BUSINESS
7. FINANCES & WEALTH
8. SPIRITUALITY

When I look at each of these areas, there are some that I felt I nailed, and some areas that I didn’t. This comes down to the concept of balance.

When I look at the personal areas of my life, I feel really, really strong.

My marriage felt amazing this year. As I looked back over 2022, one of the things that shocked me was how many trips Taylor and I took together. This was almost a surprise when I realized they had all happened last year. It got me wondering what other wins I was missing and thinking about how to be more aware of the good things that are happening in my life.

The motherhood category is one that I feel like I was able to put more of my time and energy toward. Being available and present felt really good. I can contribute a lot of that success to be willing to let go of some of the stuff and outsource it.

I set an exercise goal of being able to run a 5k at any given time. You might think that’s an easy one, but it wasn’t for me. I was able to see a lot of progress in my strength, too, as I graduated from cans of beans and shifted to weights of 10, 15, and 25-pounds.

My spirituality felt great this year too. I teach a religion class through my church and absolutely love it! It makes it pretty much impossible not to focus on my spirituality when tomorrow morning, I need to break down and introduce the gospel of Mark to 20 high school juniors and seniors. In this case necessity is really on my side.

Recognizing Loss and Lessons

Full transparency: There are a lot of things that I was not happy with in 2022 when it came to my business, and that was really surprising. So many areas felt so good and yet there were still a lot of things that felt like losses.

One of my goals was to be more consistent on Instagram and social media. Well, that didn’t happen and I saw zero growth.

For the first quarter of 2022, we worked on a new membership platform. I dumped so much money and time into it, and guess what — it never even launched. We ran into so many snags. There became a point where I had to just call it and walk away. It was so frustrating.

As I assessed why some things didn’t work out, I thought about the four steps to goal setting: Dreaming, deciding (i.e. making a plan), doing, and defining (reviewing the results/progress). I could see where I missed a step. I am great at dreaming and deciding how to do it. Sometimes my doing falls short, but I am usually pretty good at that too. In the case of the membership platform, I felt bad about quitting. I thought I’d spent too much to walk away, but I probably should have pulled the plug much sooner and if I’d have done a better job looking at the results and progress — or in this case, lack there of — maybe I would have seen it sooner and saved myself some of that lost money and time.

So often we keep those things a secret and don’t share our shortcomings or our “failures.” I certainly don’t like telling you where I’ve messed up, but sharing can prevent someone from making the same mistake. And it helps us to realize we’re not so alone in our problems after all.

Coming into 2023, I am definitely asking, “Okay, what went wrong? What went right? How do I solve this? What do I adjust? What do I need to re-look at?” So again, it’s important to come back and assess and evaluate everything (the defining stage).


THE LESSON I LEARNED

I Am in Charge of My Busyness or Bliss

One of the greatest lessons I learned this year is that I am in charge of my feelings of busyness or bliss. The more we allow outside influences to dominate, the more power we give away.

Time for family is always worth it. As I’m looking back at everything, I feel like last year was one of the most incredible years with great quality time spent as a family.

Last year was not one of my most financially rewarding years. I can look at that and say I failed, or I can look at that and say, no, I succeeded but in different ways.

I can always make more money, but I cannot get this time back with my kids. I have a high school senior. Our family is about to change. She’s going off to college. Putting family first has been even more important.

This is why I love the assessment. It gives you a full view of your life and you can see the true balance of it all.

Overall, I had some great wins this year. Here are my favorites:

  1. My 40 by 40 list — I created a list of accomplishments that I wanted to complete before my 40th birthday. It was hard! But it ended up being truly life-changing. Highlights are here. (I also wrote this post about 40 accomplishments before I turned 40)
  2. My girls trip to Paris to celebrate my birthday — need I say more? It was amazing!
  3. Reaching some exercise goals — pushing myself to see what my body could do
  4. Hosting my Balance Retreat — I love hosting mastermind retreats, they fill my soul’s cup!
  5. Starting this podcast! — I wanted to do this a while ago, but I am proud of myself for finally getting through the excuses and making it happen

So there you go. There are my lessons learned from 2022. I hope you will take the time to reflect on your own year. Where were your wins, what lessons are you taking with you into 2023? I would love to know.

Links and other helpful things:

Habits of Health app

Free Download: Habit Tracker

Free Download: Assessment Worksheet

Find out where you’re losing time every day and if your business is taking more time than it should.

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