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How to Achieve a New Dream Without Getting Overwhelmed with Jaime Gordon (Ep 38)

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I have spoken to so many women in the last few months who are confessing that there is something on their hearts, something they want to do, but they are scared.

They don’t know how it’s going to fit into their life. They don’t know if they’re capable. They don’t know if it’s possible. They for sure have those feelings of “who am I to believe that I could…..”

So that’s what we’re talking about today. We are talking about when you have that thing on your heart, whether it is a new business, more education, some big new thing or changing things up in your life, how we make the space for that without the overwhelm.

I’ve brought Jaime Gordon, AKA the Unstuckologist, onto the Balancing Busy Podcast because she is an absolute genius at getting people unstuck in their lives. In today’s episode, I’ve asked Jamie to walk us through how we can get past fear, and go for our goals and dreams without the overwhelm or burnout.


This episode will help:

👉 Anyone feeling overwhelmed with starting something new
👉 Entrepreneurs to get more comfortable with discomfort
👉 Busy work-at-home moms find what’s really blocking them and move past it

In this episode:

1:50 Are you feeling stuck?
3:02 Fear is what is holding you back
6:01 Normalizing fear and discomfort
11:48 How to fit something new into your life
14:51 Getting honest with yourself: What is the real block?
20:15 Setting your expectations
26:18 The gift of growth


Fear is holding you back

There’s no shortage of ways that we can get ourselves stuck, but they all boil down to an element of fear.

Fear that we’re not gonna be able to do it. Fear that we can’t trust ourselves. Fear that when we get there, we might not like it. Fear that we’re not skilled enough, fear that we’re not gonna be able to be consistent. Fear that it’s going to prove that we really aren’t as good as we think we are.

I mean, there is a bottomless pit of fear.

It’s easy to see how all that fear can keep us stuck! Our fear might manifest by keeping ourselves busy. Or by not getting clear about what we want.


Getting on the other side of fear

So how do we get on the other side of the fear? How do we stop that fear from stopping us?

One of the first things you can do is normalize feeling fear and discomfort. If we could normalize the feeling of fear and learn tools to move through it, we would have a much higher rate of success in going after the things we want.

We think it’s supposed to all feel good, easy, effortless, and fun… all the time It’s not! There’s nothing in life that comes without discomfort. In fact, what you’re experiencing now, if you’re not chasing your dream, is discomfort. You’re just used to it!

So we’ve got to become comfortable in the discomfort, and normalize feeling fear when we embark on something new.


How to fit something new into your life

For so many women, one of the biggest concerns is how am I going to fit this into my life and not create suffering or problems for others?

I know I’ve wondered, “How do I still show up in all the other areas in my life that need me and not fail somewhere?”

So often, when we start something new, we let it consume us and take over, and that is where we go wrong. To give all our time and energy to this new interest and to starve other areas of our lives isn’t a great equation.

The trick is not to magically find a missing chunk of time, but it’s getting clear on our expectations, our current commitments, and our boundaries. It’s also about getting real and honest with ourselves about what’s been holding us back and what stories we have been telling ourselves.


What is the real block?

How many times have you said out loud the words, I don’t have time? (Cue everyone raising their hands)

What if someone said they would pay you 1 MILLION dollars to complete that task or goal? I’m guessing you would find the time.

So then, time isn’t actually the block. We do this with so many things, and it turns out that what we think is the block – actually isn’t.

Jaime uses this question to flush out the excuses and get to the real block of why we aren’t committing to something. It is such a simple question that we can ask in every situation, and I just love that it flushes out the crap (no pun intended) and gets us to what the real block is.

When we know what is actually blocking us from accomplishing our dreams and goals, then we can address it. Because if you were being paid a million dollars, you could get to cleaning out that closet, you could wake up earlier, you could write the book!


It’s not about speed, it’s about forward motion

When working towards a new goal, we need to understand that it is not nearly as much about speed as it is about forward motion (aka: making SOME progress). It’s so easy to get caught up in how fast we’re supposed to be able to achieve it, instead of that we’re just supposed to make progress and that’s part of what gets us stuck.


Moving slowly is better than not moving at all, right?

We just have to stop and say, it might take me a lot longer than other people. I might be on a slower track because I am doing a lot of other things, and that’s okay.

The mama who has young kids at home and is trying to start her business and take care of the home and her relationships and a million other things, is going to have slower process than the single guy in his twenties who literally could spend all of his time working.

I think one of the biggest mistakes in my early years, was I thought I was supposed to keep up at the same speed of all these people who I was watching, but I wasn’t factoring that their lives looked nothing like my own.


the gift of growth

One thing that is really cool to realize is that your growth isn’t just for you. When you step into working on a new goal, it often requires your family and support system to step up and grow too.

I think of when my husband took over after dinner when the kids were little to give me uninterrupted hours of work. Often I could hear them with a problem, and I knew that I could go and solve it. But by keeping my booty firmly planted in my office chair (and not running to the rescue) it gave my hubby the opportunity to grow in his own ways!

When you choose a goal that requires that your family show up for you in a different way for you, know that the ripple effect is for everyone, not just you.

And the same goes for when we choose not to grow in an area that life is calling us to grow in. Other people are paying the price, not just us. And this is one of the most beautiful takeaways…


When we hold ourselves back, when we stop ourselves from doing that thing that is on our heart, we are robbing the world of this special thing that it needs and robbing others of the ripple effect.

Bottom line: we need to be comfortable being uncomfortable. We need to be okay accepting that doing the thing will feel hard and it will feel scary, and that’s NORMAL.

You can create changes in your life, you can dream and do the big things and you can do it all balanced and aligned.

LINKS YOU’LL LOVE:

Jamie Gordon – Life Coaching – http://jaimegordonlifecoaching.showit.site/

Enroll in my FREE course and learn how to drop an entire workday a week!

Connect with Jamie on Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/unstuckologist/

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